“Find people who share your values, and you’ll conquer the world together.”
― John Ratzenberger
It’s been a hot topic in conversation lately. When you think of values what comes to mind – I looked up the definition online, here’s what I found.
1.the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
2. a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.
Interesting that the worth or usefulness of something was #1 and principles and standard of behavior was #2.
The quote above is a true statement. Look at the state of the world today and the what energies are at play. I can say that for the most part I do not share the same values with most of what you see in Media at large. So what does this tells us about how the world is changing? How can we change the world and is it really our job to be a part of a movement to change the world?
According to #2 definition – we could say that the answers to these questions lie with what are our own values or our standard’s of behavior. None of us are perfect – in the sense that we never make mistakes or that we don’t have room to grow, but let’s just say we are moving towards being the best version of ourselves. If we truly believe in honesty than our life will reflect that in our thought, speech and deed. People trust us because they know that our behavior is inline with what we believe in and what we say. If we are dependable and supportive, once again we engender a sense of trust and reliability.
Happiness in Maintaining Our Values
If we can imagine that our values are an extension of who we are at the core of us then this ought to bring us to a place of peace. When we are start to behave in ways in order to please others we usually start to feel some sort of discord. For example making decisions about how to live our lives in order to make other’s proud of us or more accepting of us in a group. To live from this vantage point will eventually leave us feeling empty because we are not in alignment with our own values, better put what other’s think is more important than we think.
Living from a space of our true happiness is what matters most. This is not to say that we live in a bubble where we are only concerned with our own selfish desires, to the contrary – us living from a space of inner peace & contentment only enhances our ability to live a life that is meaningful useful and contributing the very best we have to offer the world around us. This kind of living will enhance all that come into contact with us, unless they are not happy to begin with. We don’t have to resist their values or thoughts we just stay in a place of repose and happiness.
Get Connected to Our Values
How we interact with the world around us leaves a ripple effect. Thriving in the face of opposition – whether it be someone choosing to be with someone else instead of us in a relationship, a job or a group is not contingent upon anyone else. Our values and belief in ourselves with unconditional love is something that trumps whatever anyone else does or says. Examine why you choose the things you choose, when did you decide what other’s think was more important than your values, how did we lose our way in deciding what mattered most and did we ever have a grip on the importance of values in the first place? Ahhh – this tickles the mind a bit doesn’t it?
The importance of our values is in large part what shapes our lives. While we may not share the same values with some people it doesn’t make it any less important. The primary point of focus is understanding ourselves first. It’s very easy to judge what somebody else values and criticize, but does it really matter. No – it’s none of our business. Our Values are what matter most. Living by them with true conviction without judgement is a good place to start. Like attracts like so it is easy to say that we will attract like minded people along our path. Even if we don’t maintaining a steadfast grasp of our own will continually lead us to the path that is meant for us.
To tie back to the quote above – do we really wish to conquer the world, I would say we wish to have a positive influence on the world by utilizing our free will to dig deep into our own minds and see how our values impact those around us. Once again an inside job and one that starts with ‘I’.