It’s been a while. So much has happened, some things are still the same and some things just come out of the blue. Things that make you go hmmm and I need to count my blessings.
Perspective – “The best things in life aren’t things.” – Art Buchwald
Everyone has moments in life when you think that life is so hum drum and not really worth the effort or you think that you’ve got it so bad. Then you get a phone call that someone has had a heart attack. Or you check your Facebook account and find out a client died from Cancer & one of your best friends had to go in for emergency brain surgery. This is when you have an incredible moment in life to gain perspective on your own. The aha moment ought to be – I should be grateful for all I have! Another aha moment is – aren’t you glad that you let people know on a regular basis just how much they mean to you and that you love them. Let’s face it time goes by quickly, people come in and out of your life – circumstances change, but the love that we share is of greater value than anything we own.
Had the pleasure of meeting an extraordinary woman a couple of weeks ago. She has had a full life working with horses, raising a family and running successful businesses. She is now in her 70’s and her philosophy in life is “you need love in your life, love what you do for work, have someone to love and loves you back. Life is too short and when you get older you will want someone to share your love with after it’s all said and done.”
We could let these things have a momentary effect on us or we can use it to catapult us on to better ways of thinking and setting priorities in our lives.
Priorities – “Your days are numbered. Use them to throw open the windows of your soul to the sun. If you do not, the sun will soon set, and you with it.” – Marcus Aurelius
Once we have been given the gift of getting a new perspective – the next step is finding out what’s really important to us and why. Perhaps we start to purge: outdated ways of thinking, cleaning out cupboards, letting go one sided relationships, find more meaningful work….
First things first – stop sweating the small stuff – Are we happy, if not what is the source of our unhappiness and does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? All the questions that arise are relevant (for the most part) this time of reflection affords us an opportunity to change. It can happen in an instant – then comes the action. Sticking to the important things in life. Self preservation, self reliance and self respect take on a whole meaning. How many of us really take the time to do the necessary things for ourselves before we jump on helping others so that we can deflect things going on inside our hearts and minds? Helping others in need is a wonderful feeling to be sure, but if it’s something we do to make ourselves feel better as opposed to really doing our own work – how useful is it, really. Putting on your own ‘oxygen mask first’ is essential if we are to be of service to others. Our “HomeWork” is essential to loving ourselves.
Perseverance – “Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.” Seneca
There are days when we feel like life is a grind. A remedy to that is finding things in our lives that absolutely light us up. Not just talking about making that deal (while it is a sense of accomplishment), I mean really finding something that lights up our Soul. For me it’s Arabian Horses. It’s a new love in my life and those horses give so much back. Once you have their trust and they know you come with love they are happy to see you, it also helps if you have treats for them. Pehaps it is spending time with people that love you and tell you so. You share laughter, stories, love and triumphs.
It takes endurance to live, making an effort to find goodness in the world helps to overcome the rough spots. Taking care of ourselves internally and externally takes commitment to oneself. If all the things we owned were taken away – what would it look like? Really think about it. Things can be taken away in an instant – where we would go from there? We have ourselves, our loved ones and the knowledge that we can pick ourselves up by the proverbial boot straps and make a better life. It takes faith, courage and hope to live a full life.
Find the love that resides within and cherish those around you. Even the ones you don’t really like. Send love and light their way. Perhaps they will get it or may be not – the most important thing is that we get it and life evolves from that point.
Life is too short to be anything but Happy. I hope we all have time to take care of ourselves, our loved ones and make this life A Joy to experience and learn from whatever hardship comes our way.
Peace, Love & Happiness to You All on this Summer’s Day,